Start the Year with a New Tradition

Tired of the same old New Year’s traditions (or lack thereof)? Here are a few ways that you can freshen up the turning of the year or make it a little more reflective and meaningful.

Clean out the cobwebs and the clutter before the eve of the new year.
Take an hour or two to literally clean house and get rid of whatever you don’t need anymore…even if it is only in one room where you spend most of your time. Spend a little time puttering and making the room more functional and appealing as a way of preparing for the new year. This has benefits at an unconscious level and will mentally create more space. Then decide what you want to welcome into that spaciousness—mentally and physically. Will it be gratitude? Self-care? Abundance? Will it be a piece of art to inspire you? Or a beautiful flowering plant, or a photo of you with your nearest and dearest? Take action on that on the first or second day of the new year in whatever way is meaningful.

Let out the old, let in the new.
Just before midnight (or whatever time you celebrate the new year if you have kids—we used to do it at 9pm), go to a back door, or a window at the back of the house, and open it to symbolically let the old year out of the house and say “thank you” (or, I suppose, “good riddance”). Then at midnight, open the front door of the house to welcome in the new year and all the good things that it will bring.

 

 

 

Inspired by Wendy Hardman

Create a milestone keeper.
This is especially good for kids, teens and young adults as well as those of us who tend to forget or negate all that we have accomplished. Find or make a beautiful container either by shopping the thrift stores, saving a cookie tin, decorating a jar or using a special family heirloom (old jewelry box, crystal bowl, violin case)—whatever is appealing and meaningful. Cut slips of coloured paper—again whatever colours appeal-and have them placed nearby—perhaps in another small, lovely little container. Anytime in the coming year when you have stepped outside your comfort zone and done something brave or accomplished something new or met a goal, write that on a slip of paper, fold it and add it to the container. This can be done with gratitudes too. Then at the end of the year (or anytime you are feeling discouraged) you can read all of your slips of paper and remind yourself of all that you have done, and/or of your many blessings.

Flowers by Gatherings Floral Studio

Conspire to make the world better.
Take some time to talk about, or think about how we can make the world a better place. With family or friends or on your own, brainstorm ideas and then pick some action items to schedule into 2018:

    • random act of kindness on particular days
    • volunteering for a shelter or charity fundraiser on another day
    • taking part in Earth Hour
    • taking flowers to the hospital or nursing home to give people who have no visitors a little boost
    • walking or busing to work once a week
    • cleaning up garbage on the beach or along the hiking path in the forest
    • calling or visiting someone who could use some company

Put it all in the calendar by month or, if possible by day.

I wish you all the very best for the new year and hope that it brings you many moments of joy and peace, the company of good friends and dear family, and all that you need to live a life of abundance and gratitude. 

Laura Higgins
Life-Cycle Celebrant

Grow Self-Love: A Mindful Planting Ritual

“To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance.” — Oscar Wilde

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If you’re like me, that life-long romance is only just getting started. Although I have met a few people who appear to accept and love themselves, I would guess that most people—deep down, usually unconsciously—believe that they aren’t good enough, that they’re unlovable, or that they are fundamentally flawed or broken.

It’s pretty easy to criticize ourselves, to find fault with ourselves—and hey—if we aren’t conscious enough to do it openly, we sometimes project it by criticizing and finding fault with others! I have been an “expert” at both of those unhealthy strategies and have spent most of my life seeking the love and approval of others, because I didn’t believe that I was intrinsically worthy and lovable. It is only recently, through some powerful NLP coaching that I have had the tools to help change those beliefs, begun to practice radical self-care and am able to start seeing more clearly the light I shine in this world. Continue reading

Love Letters Are Not Just For Couples

This week my Nana turns 95, and as we live a great distance apart, I’m unable to be there for her birthday. So, I wrote her a love letter and popped it in the mail for my uncle to deliver on her special day.

What do I mean by “love letter?” A letter (or video message, song, or poem) to someone you care about, expressing what you love about them, your gratitude for what they bring to your life, and the impact they have had on you. So often these words of the heart are only shared when someone is dying, or at funerals and memorials. Why not share them now?

The “rite” way to turn around a bad day

Let’s say that it’s been that kind of day. Where you lose your keys, and in hunting for them, come across unfinished projects, forgotten messes, and a bill that someone forgot to pay. Your coffee spills, you get stuck in traffic and maybe, just maybe, you now have a headache. It’s the kind of day when everything’s wrong.

What can you do to turn your day around? You may choose the oft-touted healthy strategies of exercise, meditation and relaxation. Or, let’s face it, when we’re having a bad day most of us resort to indulging, distracting, or medicating.

I’d like to offer you another option that you probably haven’t considered: a rite or ritual based on something you already need to do. What makes it a “rite” or “ritual,” is that it is done with purpose and intention.

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